From the outside your life is picture-perfect

You live in a beautiful home in a desirable location. You have all the trappings of success - the car, clothes, holidays. Your children have had an excellent education.

Your career (or your partner's) has elevated you into a level of financial freedom that has offered you a high level of comfort and security.

To others your lifestyle is enviable - you're living the dream.

But it doesn't feel like that to you.

You've worked hard, pursuing your ambitions to create the best life possible for you and your family. You may have reached as far as you can go in your career and feel stuck - or you can't take the relentless pressure anymore and feel at breaking point.

You may have devoted your life to being the perfect wife, mother and have-it-all career woman meeting every demand made of you.

 

Or being the ideal husband and father yet find yourself trapped in a Catch-22 of not being able to enjoy time with your family because you're so busy providing for them.

Now, in your 40s or 50s, you've hit a wall.

You've sacrificed a lot to get where you are now, without being able to actually enjoy the fruits of your labour.

You're seeking support because you may be experiencing any of these:

 

  • Feeling empty and isolated in spite of a busy social life.

  • Feeling anxious and overwhelmed at work.

  • High standards and a fear of failure driving you to give too much of yourself.

  • Lying awake at night worrying or sleeping badly with nightmares.

 

  • Suffering panic attacks, mood swings or exhaustion.

 

  • Feeling flat and unable to really enjoy life.

  • Looking after others at the expense of your own needs.

  • Feeling detached from family life or getting irritable with the kids.

 

Wherever you are now, you know that something needs to change, because you can't go on feeling or living the way you do now.

What you would love instead is...

  • Feeling calm and content.

  • Feeling more connected and supported.

  • Feeling that you're moving in the right direction.

  • Feeling a sense of joy and gratitude more frequently.

  • Finding deeper fulfilment and a renewed sense of purpose.

  • Slowing down and taking time to enjoy your good fortune.

  • Feeling that you're enough and you're making the most of life.

  • Enjoying quality time with friends and family.

  • Sleeping well at night after a satisfying day.

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